It always starts with curiosity. That little thought you can’t quite shake: what would it feel like to be in a room full of men, all stroking together? Would I fit in? Would I even be able to relax? That spark is the first step — and if you’re reading this, you’ve already taken it.
“How does it work?” is the question I hear the most, and honestly, it’s a fair one. Walking into something this intimate for the first time can feel like a leap. So let me paint the picture for you.
First comes registration. You sign up online to reserve your spot, and from there, you’re good to go. Payment is easy — you can take care of it online ahead of time or in person at the door. Either way, it covers the room and the essentials that make the session comfortable. When you register, you’ll also get a general area address (always within five minutes of the actual spot) so you can plan ahead. The exact room details are sent out about an hour before the session starts — sometimes a little closer than that, I’ll admit. That’s why the general address comes first, so you’re not stuck circling Raleigh in your car with your best “I’m definitely not looking for a jerk-off club” face on.
When the time comes, you head straight to the room. No awkward hotel desk interactions, no need to explain why you’re there. The vibe is discreet, and the moment you walk in, the nerves usually start to fade. At check-in, you’ll be given a numbered bag and a matching numbered wristband. The bag is for your clothing and personal items, and the wristband ensures everything is kept safe until you’re ready to leave. Think of it like coat check — only this time, you’re checking your pants instead of your jacket. One less thing to worry about while you focus on the fun ahead.
The room usually starts quietly — a handful of guys stroking slowly, catching glances, testing the rhythm. Some take their time, easing in from the sidelines. Others are already hard, ready to sync up and ride the current. The sound of lube, the shift of breath, the sudden gasp when someone edges too close — it spreads fast, until the whole space hums with heat. You can stay in your own corner, sync with the group, or lock eyes and lose yourself in the moment. And here’s the part a lot of guys find comforting: you don’t have to stay the entire time. Some leave after they’ve finished, others linger to the end. You move at your own pace, on your own terms.
And through it all, our code of conduct keeps the space safe and hot. Consent and respect are non-negotiable. No one should touch you without clear acknowledgment. You decide how far you want to go, how close you want to get, and with whom you want to connect. Boundaries are honored, no questions asked.
Consent is sexy — it keeps the energy hot and the vibe safe.
When it’s over, the room shifts. Towels, laughter, quiet goodbyes. Some slip out right away, others stay a few minutes longer. However you wrap up, there’s no pressure and no judgment.
Because at the end of the day, BATE: Raleigh isn’t just about getting off — it’s about creating a space where men can be raw, free, and connected. Simple, discreet, built on respect… and hot enough to leave you buzzing long after.
The only thing missing now is you — and let’s be real, the room is always better with one more hand in the mix.