CODE OF CONDUCT
Bate: Raleigh (BATE:R) is a private club with a Code of Conduct that governs how all members interact physically and socially in the context of the club. This includes all events hosted by BATE: Raleigh and group conversations. Each member and prospective member must read, understand, and agree to following these rules.
BATE: Raleigh events are crafted to ensure a socially, emotionally, and legally secure environment. Each member is committed to comprehending, adhering to, and upholding these guidelines. Our collective appreciation for the club and our recognition of the role these rules play in creating a unique experience drive us to largely self-regulate. However, club volunteers have the authority to enforce these standards and step in when needed.
Consent is required before touching another member’s penis. This also applies to kissing. Remember: every person is in charge of their body. You own your body as does every other member you encounter in the warehouse. Always ask before touching someone who hasn’t given consent. Be prepared to say “no” and always take “no” for an answer. Never press the issue. We treat each other with mutual respect and human dignity, like brothers.
Like all traditional jack-off clubs, sexual activity is strictly limited to masturbation and mutual masturbation. Oral and anal sex are never permitted at our events. Nothing goes inside anybody’s anything.
Self-masturbation and consensual mutual masturbation
Erotic and friendly touch
Showing off and watching (no touch)
Parallel penis-to-penis masturbation (“C2C”)
Frottage (rubbing bodies together)
Oral contact above the waist only (kissing, nipple nibbling, etc.)
No insertion (nothing goes inside anybody’s anything)
No anal contact (never even touch any butthole, including your own)
No docking (foreskin sharing)
No oral contact below the waist (no lips below the hips)
If you don’t have consent, you may not touch another member.
Minimum participation is stripping to a single article of underwear, a jockstrap, or a T-shirt. Hats, fetish wear, and gear are always permitted, and some themes will invite specific clothing. Footwear is encouraged and never wear anything that might tear or cut skin.
Warn verbally before you ejaculate. Don’t just breathe heavily. Say it out loud with words.
Ejaculate on yourself, the floor, or any canvas-covered surface.
Explicit, mutual consent is required before ejaculating on others.
Always thoroughly wipe up semen from the floor.
Never allow semen on anyone’s face or anus.
Avoid aggressive or prolonged urethra play.
No ingestion of semen is allowed.
Never bring recreational drugs or alcohol of any kind to BATE: Raleigh events, and do not arrive at events intoxicated. Intoxicated members will not be admitted or may be ejected from events. Problem behavior will result in the removal from any event. All group jack-off events hosted by BATE: Raleigh are designated alcohol- and drug-free.
“Poppers” ARE permitted, with consent, as some people may not like them.
Your body and hands should be clean when you attend a BATE: Raleigh event, with teeth brushed and fingernails trimmed short and smooth. Take care of bad breath and excessive body odor before entering the play space. The club provides mouthwash and hand soap at all events as well as antibacterial moist wipes. Start every event with a trip to the washroom to wash your hands and use mouthwash, whether you think you need it or not. Do not wear any fragrance to BATE: Raleigh events.
Never, at any time, disclose any member’s identity to anyone, either inside the club or out. Ever. What you do here, who you see here, stays here. Violation of any member’s identity is grounds for termination and removal.
Excessive chatter is discouraged during events. Quiet talk is okay, and hot talk is welcome at any volume. “Conversation” is another matter. Be friendly and sociable, but don’t distract others in the play space. If you’re asked to lower your voice, do so. You are welcome to talk to fellow members about sex play that is not permitted in BATE: Raleigh events. For example, while oral and anal sex are never permitted in the club, you can talk about it during the event as long as your fellow members don’t mind. Be yourself.
Do not attend a BATE: Raleigh event if you have or suspect that you may have a disease you can spread it to other members in the course of an event. This includes common colds and flu, COVID-19, monkeypox, herpes outbreaks, and staph infections. HIV is not considered communicable in the context of club activities. HIV-positive men are welcome to join the club and participate in events in accordance with our rules, as there is no evidence of transmission of the virus through mutual masturbation.